This article walks the reader through an imaginary sexual interaction between a couple working to overcome various challenges in order to connect. Throughout the story, the author will interject to highlight what worked and describe the research-based skills that made it possible. Next month, the author will present the same interaction from the perspective of the man. Though this article focuses on a heterosexual couple, the scenario could easily take place between individuals of any gender.
Skip navigation! Story from Relationship Advice. Talking about sex is hard. Telling the person you love that you're not happy with your sex life is even harder. In fact, it might feel impossible to start a conversation about all the things you don't like about having sex with your partner.
If so, in what ways? If you find slang degrading, be creative and come up with your own affirming language. Sometimes the vagueness of expressions can lead to miscommunication if both partners are not clear on the meaning.
Salt-N-Pepa's song, " Let's Talk About Sex ," was a hit for a reason: Couples who discuss tricky topics, like what's going down in the bedroom , are 10 times more likely to have a happy relationship than those who ignore difficult subjects, says Joseph Grenny, social scientist and co-author of Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High. Before you get beneath the sheets and maybe even after , experts say you should have these sex conversations with your partner. Trust us, doing so will make the experience that much more enjoyable.