Suddenly sliding away from that peak is disappointing, to say the least. That's doubly true for women, many of whom find it much harder to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. In fact, according to a recent survey, only 65 percent of heterosexual women consistently reach the pinnacle of pleasure during sex. So what can you do to help her reach that peak?
The female orgasm can be a mysterious and intimidating prospect. That can be a bit of a blow to the ego. And what makes it so complicated? Turns out, quite a lot. We have to get a lot more going in our sex equation to make that happen. You may want to take some notes. Many women will tell you that an orgasm is nigh on impossible if she's not in the right head space.
One of the biggest insecurities a person can have during sex is not being able to make a woman orgasm. The truth is that women are much harder to get to reach climax than are men. Doing everything from fingering her to oral should be enough to arouse her and make her want the real thing. Every woman is different.
If you're a woman who finds climaxing easy and can have orgasms during intercourse with little effort — even in a position where it's difficult for your partner to access the clitoris with the fingertips — then you are very lucky indeed! For the majority of us, 'ringing that bell' is not nearly so simple. Even women who can masturbate to a climax with no difficulty can feel quite anxious about 'coming' with a male partner. This doesn't seem fair, because apart from the small minority of men who have psychological difficulties with sex and who cannot relax enough to ejaculate into their partner delayed ejaculation , most males have no problem at all in climaxing during sexual intercourse. But of course, in a man, the penis is the pleasure-provider.