Communication is at the heart of every sexual connection. One of the fundamentals of dirty talk is understanding how you like to describe your physicality to yourself and to your partners. The language of the body can be one of affirmation as well as erotic possibility. Anatomical language is very gendered, so being able to choose what words you prefer to describe your body, and letting your partners know this is how you prefer to be described, can be a wonderful expression of freedom. Again, turn the question back onto yourself: do I like textbook words like vulva to describe my bits, or do I prefer X-rated language like cunt or pussy? Think about how the following potentially erotic words are feminine, masculine, or gender-neutral: tits, cock, junk, ass, hair, mouth.
It takes courage to say out loud what we love, what we desire and what we yearn for. How hot is that, hm?! I used to be anxious about expressing my sexual being. So I just stayed quiet; maybe the most I could get out of my throat was a little moan. Do you know this stuckness? A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationship found that the more comfortable we are talking about sex, the more satisfactory our sex lives will become.
About a year and a half ago, I had my first bad experience with dirty talk. But there was something about being called a slut during sex that stopped me cold. I immediately asked Will to stop what he was doing, and we talked about what had just happened. He was apologetic, and he never used that word again in my presence.
Talking dirty always seems so easy in the movies or porn for that matter , but actually putting it into practice How should I say it? Any of these thoughts sound familiar? Rachel Wright, L.