You know that sometimes you have unexciting sex and that's OK because you have approximately 5 million more times to get it right. You know that sometimes sex isn't always a magical roller coaster ride of puppy dogs riding on unicorns and that's cool. You don't obsess over it because you know it's no biggie. Besides, you guys will just crush it next time because you're amazing like that. H e knows not to push your head down because he does not want to die.
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Married and Still Doing It. As women, we are socialized to be the objects of desire, not the owners of desire. We grow up thinking that sex is something that happens to us, not something we make happen.
It's easy to see how sending racy text messages can heat up a sex life, but not everyone takes advantage of the turn-on: Married couples do sext, but not nearly as much as younger lovebirds, according to a new study in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking. The issue: Marrieds may view sexting as something people do when they're insecure in their relationships, the researchers venture. And this couldn't be further from the truth, says clinical sexologist Gloria Brame, Ph. Engaging in the exhilaration can do wonders for your post-nuptial nookie.
In reality, things are usually much different, and one of the biggest things that guys seem to struggle with when it comes to marriage — if pop culture and Google searches are to be believed — is married sex. Add things like bills, kids and career woes to the mix, and you have a decidedly non-sexy scenario lined up. This person probably sees you at your best and worst, day in and day out.